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I am still single — I stayed single for the past year -but just recently went on a couple of dates with a sweet man — am going to take it slowwwww — I wonder what advice you have for us in our recovery on conducting ourselves in new, healthier relationships?? Thanks a million Nat and all of you — we will survive!! Good for you for not giving into him, the cycle would have begun again and you spotted it! It is incredible how these guys can hook you to them and even Married moms of toddlers best buds the relationship is Naked women in rock springs wy a few months the pain can still be so bad because….

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Absolutely beautiful post. Something for us all to aspire to. Have you committed a crime? Another thought provoking post, Natalie. I have been examining the ideas of validation and emotional need alot lately.

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Otherwise, I was going to have to accept that the whole relationship really was only about getting an ego stroke for. That was an incredibly painful bullet to take and I am now embarrassed to realize how far I went to avoid it. How hard I tried to get others to validate my feelings, in the hope of not actually having to acknowledge and feel them.

When I finally faced it, felt it and released it, the relief was unimaginable. He had lost all power over me, I no longer needed anything from him and my peace singles dating sites in uk mind had returned.

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Or sad, when I feel the need. Emotions are no longer so scary, no longer something that makes me weak or needy. Thanks, Natalie. Keep it coming. There seems to be no end to what I can learn now that I am finally paying attention.

Spot on, Debra. Lady wants casual sex Olds to avoid the hurt and pain of rejection just makes it worse.

In trying to get our needs met or avoiding the inevitable, we act crazy. We obsess, stalk, harass and create drama in hopes of getting their attention. I can avoid the pain of the rejection a bit longer, because its not really about me being unlovable, its about his inability to love. After decades of avoiding all negative feelings — and in the process losing the baltimore adultsearch to feel the good ones — it has been hard to feel.

I can tell when I am hurt now because my needs become so great, I cannot control what I do or say. I create a reason for contact when I know its bad. I create drama out of nothing so that I can go on about it to my friends and have what I am thinking validated by.

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